First Steps in Counselling

How We Will Work Together

The way I work within my counselling practice begins with your initial contact, which I follow up with a short phone conversation for us to introduce ourselves and for you to tell me a little about why you are looking to attend counselling. 

Taking the first step towards counselling can feel daunting, so I aim to make the process as comfortable and straightforward as possible.

Initial Contact

Our journey begins when you get in touch. Following your enquiry, I will arrange a brief telephone conversation where we can introduce ourselves and discuss what has brought you to counselling. This is an opportunity for you to ask any initial questions and get a sense of how I work.

Assessment Session

The next step is an assessment session, where we can explore in more depth what you hope to gain from counselling and discuss the difficulties or concerns you are currently experiencing.

During this session, we may also look at significant experiences from your life, including your childhood, family relationships, and other important events that may have shaped your thoughts, feelings, and behaviours. There will also be plenty of time for you to ask any questions you may have about counselling or the therapeutic process.

Assessment sessions are usually held in person, although online appointments are available for those who prefer them or find attending in person difficult.

Beginning Therapy

For many people, the assessment is the first opportunity they have had to speak openly and honestly in a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space. While this can sometimes feel challenging, clients often describe a sense of relief in being able to share their experiences freely.

Although it may not feel like therapy has begun at this stage, this process of understanding and being understood is often where meaningful therapeutic work starts.

Deciding to Move Forward

I understand that reaching out for support is not always an easy decision. However, I believe it is important for both client and therapist to take a moment to consider whether we are the right fit for one another.

A strong therapeutic relationship is one of the most important factors in successful counselling, and it is essential that we both feel comfortable working together towards your goals.

Ongoing Sessions

If we decide to move forward, we will agree on a regular weekly appointment time. Before our first full session, I will send you some information about our work together, including details of the counselling agreement and practical arrangements.

You will have the opportunity to discuss any questions or concerns before we begin, ensuring you feel informed and comfortable with the process.

From there, your counselling journey can begin in a safe, supportive, and confidential environment where we can work together towards greater understanding, growth, and emotional wellbeing.

 

 

About Richard Curtis, Psychodynamic Counsellor in Dorking, Surrey.

 

Hi, I'm Richard, a fully qualified  Counsellor with a BA Hons in psychodynamic counselling and additional qualifications in psychology.

As a registered member of the BACP, I work within their Ethical Framework, maintaining the highest standards of professional practice, confidentiality, and ongoing professional development. This ensures that the support I provide is safe, ethical, and centred around your individual needs.

I have extensive experience supporting individuals facing a wide range of challenges, including addiction, grief and loss, separation and divorce, abusive relationships, childhood trauma, neurodiversity, disability, and emotional wellbeing. My professional background includes working within addiction services, special educational needs, advocacy, and community support settings, as well as supporting children, young people, and adults in my current welfare role.

Throughout my career, I have seen how difficult life experiences can affect people in profoundly different ways. While many of us face similar struggles such as loss, relationship difficulties, anxiety, or low self-esteem, our experiences are deeply personal and shaped by our individual histories.

It was through this understanding that I developed a strong interest in psychodynamic counselling, an approach that explores how past experiences and relationships can influence our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours in the present. By gaining a deeper understanding of these patterns, counselling can help create meaningful and lasting change.

Drawing on both my professional experience and therapeutic training, I provide a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space where clients can explore challenges such as:

  • Anxiety and depression
  • Grief and bereavement
  • Addiction and recovery
  • Childhood trauma
  • Abusive or unhealthy relationships
  • Neurodiversity-related challenges
  • Life transitions and identity issues
  • Relationship difficulties and emotional wellbeing

 

 

Frequently asked questions

I know you will likely have questions you'd like to ask, so below are a few that will help you get started.

How much do sessions cost?

Clear, Straightforward Session Fees

Individual counselling: £60 for a focused 50-minute session, providing dedicated time to explore what matters most to you.

Couples counselling: £75 for a 60-minute session, giving you both the space to feel heard and begin moving forward together.

I believe counselling should be as accessible as possible. A limited number of reduced-fee sessions are available for people on lower incomes and for trainee counsellors, so please feel welcome to get in touch and ask about current availability.

Do you offer online therapy sessions? 

Therapy That Fits Around Your Life

If travelling to the practice is difficult—or maybe you just feel more comfortable talking from home—online and telephone sessions can offer you a flexible, accessible way to get the support you are looking for.

Your privacy matters: My online sessions are held through a secure service provider, so you can speak openly from a private space where you feel at ease.

Support if your plans change: If you usually meet with me in person but cannot for some unexpected reason travel on a particular day, moving the session online can help you maintain continuity without adding extra pressure.

What should I expect from my first counselling session?

Your First Session: A Calm, Supportive Place to Begin

Taking the first step can feel daunting, so your first session is designed to help you feel comfortable, heard, and under no pressure. It is a chance for us to get to know each other and feel confident that working together feels right for you.

Together, we can explore:

  • what has been happening and what has led you to seek support;
  • what changes you would most like to see in your life or relationships;
  • how counselling may help and what you can expect from the process;
  • confidentiality, practical details, and any questions or concerns you may have;

You do not need to arrive with the right words or a clear plan. You can share as much or as little as you are able, ask anything you need to, and take time to decide on the next step. The aim is for you to leave feeling clearer, supported, and hopeful about the way forward. And remember, these are your sessions, you set the pace that is manageable for you.

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How long does therapy last?

Working at Your Pace and Preparing for an Ending

Everyone is different and brings their own experiences to counselling. For that reason, my sessions are open-ended, giving each client the time and space to work at a pace that feels right for them.

When you feel ready to move forward without counselling, we can structure a planned ending over a set number of sessions. Together, we will focus on:

  • recognising and strengthening your own resources;
  • consolidating the new skills you have developed; and
  • identifying support networks or groups that can help you maintain and build on the progress you have made.

 

Qualifications

BA Hons in psychodynamic counselling skills

Certification in counselling levels 1,2 &3

HE diploma in psychology

Enhanced DBS

Welfare officer certification

Experienced in

Anxiety and depression

Grief and loss

Substance abuse

Suicidal thoughts

Retirement and redundancy

Living with others addictions

Childhood trauma

Divorce and separation

Abusive and controlling behaviour

Family estrangements

Unresolved relational trauma

 

Working hours

Monday 12.00-20.00

Tuesday 08.00-20.00

Thursday 10.00-16.00

Either in person or online